Should You Consider Open Adoption?

Adoption is a big deal and it's something that will change your life and your child's life forever. As you begin to explore adoption and the adoption process, you may be wondering if open adoption is right for you and your family. This is a personal choice and one that others can't make for you, but you can gather information, learn more, and consider the needs of you and your family when deciding. Keep reading to learn more about open adoption and whether it's something that you should consider: 

What is Open Adoption? 

In an open adoption, you allow the biological parents to have some kind of relationship or contact with your child after adoption. This may be in the form of occasional phone calls, letters, yearly visits, or any type of relationship that you decide is appropriate. Many parents do choose to have an open adoption, but no open adoption is the same. You are in control of deciding what you're comfortable with and what is allowed as part of your adoption plan.

What is a Closed Adoption? 

In a closed adoption, you adopt a child and don't exchange contact information or agree to a relationship with the biological parents. You and your child start a life that is free of the biological parents. 

Should You Consider Open Adoption?

You may be wondering if you should consider this type of adoption. You should carefully research open and closed adoptions, read about others' experiences with both, and get as much information as you can before making a choice. You'll also want to do the following:

  • Consider the emotional impact for your family and your child
  • What kind of contact or communication you would feel comfortable with agreeing to
  • Are the birth parents a good fit for open adoption
  • Do the birth parents want to be part of your child's life
  • What would an open adoption agreement look like for your family
  • How will this impact your child now and in the future

There's a lot to think about and consider when deciding if open adoption is right for your family and your child. If you're considering an open adoption, it's a smart idea to talk with an adoption counselor. They can help you work through your feelings, your fears, and can answer any questions that you have. They can also provide resources for you to learn more about the adoption process and open adoption.